Did you know that in America, in almost 20 percent of all marriages and intimate partnerships, couples slap, shove, hit, or otherwise assault each other.
Emotional abuse or verbal threats, humiliating or degrading remarks, and controlling behavior—is even more common. And they all stem from intolerance.
It is okay to wish that others were a little bit different from who they are. Sometimes, we wish they were more like us – and it is completely okay to influence them in kind, positive ways.
But where problems surface is when we become self-righteous, angry, always looking for faults and nagging, or otherwise forcing them to change rather than accepting other people’s differences.
This topic is especially relevant for people who are controlling of others or have abusive tendencies and therefore abusive in a relationship. If you find yourself incapable of tolerating others, you will have problems with being in any kind of relationship, especially romantic relationships.… Read the rest